These two types fall in the “green zone” of the compatibility chart. They have quite a lot of similarities with each other, but at the same time possess enough differences to be able to learn from one another. ENFPs belong to the idealist temperament group, but they often find themselves dating rational types – that is, INTJs, ENTJs, INTPs and ENTPs. These temperaments balance each other out in some ways but utterly conflict in others.

Given INFPs’ sincerity and depth of personality, it’s no wonder that they make fantastic partners. This personality type has the amazing ability to make others feel heard and understood and will not take their romantic relationship for granted. They are aware that they need to value their partner daily, which they are eager to do, unconditionally. INFPs are able to create very deep, almost spiritual bonds with their partners, which they take very seriously. To them, being intimate with another person isn’t all about physical interaction, but rather a way to share mind, body, and soul.

We also communicate quite well because we have the same type of communication style. It’s easy to understand why he might think or speak in a certain way because I could see myself doing it. And because we can get along well with people, we have good relationships with each others’ loved ones.

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Overall, this friendship is likely to be harmonious and nurturing, for both sides. In the workplace, INFPs and INTPs are united by their mutual love for privacy and discussing innovative solutions to problems. Like two jigsaw pieces that fit together, the strengths and weaknesses of these two complements each other nicely. INTPs bring logical reasoning to the table, while INFPs offer more people-oriented reasoning in return. INTPs, as the Thinking types, can help the more sensitive INFP to think more critically about difficult issues or situations. On the contrary, empathetic INFPs can teach INTPs how to recognize the personal and emotional impact their decisions have on others.

Both personalities rely on intuition, and they can have deep discussions. The ENFPs and INFPs can communicate their feelings through unconventional ways, which will keep their spark alive. What good is personality theory if you can’t put it into practice? Below we’ll walk through the specific dynamics of an ENFP and INTJ relationship as coworkers, lovers, and friends. We try to live rather than exist, so 95% of the time we pour our whole hearts into our work, relationships, art, hobbies, etc. We have a very difficult time separating who we are as a person from who we are professionally or who we are in a relationship.


It is common for these types to feel initially attracted to each other, as each is strong in the other’s area of weakness. The ISTJ may be drawn to the ENFP’s friendly nature and ability to think outside the box, whereas the ENFP appreciates the capable, grounded nature of the ISTJ. Over time however, these two stubborn personalities are prone to clashing as they have vastly different communication styles and can’t always tune into each other’s values. This relationship has the best chance of success if both parties are able to develop their third function , as it is the auxiliary function in the other party. The ENFP relationship with their own type can make for both very good and very bad pairing.

ENFP females are charismatic people who are sensitive to how others feel. They are also interested in abstract ideas and looking at the big picture. This tendency to “kick the can down the road” can cause trouble later in the relationship.

However, INFPs are simply dedicated to understanding themselves, and the world, better. Even though they have a very clear understanding of what they like and dislike, this doesn’t mean that they can’t have harmonious relationships with others. Additionally, ENFPs can feel slightly needy to their partners because of the requirements for positive affirmation and assurance. ENFPs with verbal love languages can especially be “needy” to their partners, constantly requesting compliments or encouragement from their partner. For personality types that are more introverted or who don’t like to verbalize their feelings, this can be not only annoying but also oppressive. They both share Introverted Feeling as a cognitive function, which means that they make decisions that are deeply in line with their personal values, feelings and beliefs.

Furthermore, INFPs avoid confrontation at all costs – which makes it difficult to resolve disagreements. A friendship between an INFP and an ESFP can be a fun endeavor. As Feeling types, it’s easier for these two to recognize and validate each other’s emotions. On the other hand, INFPs can teach ESFPs how to look deeper within themselves and align with their inner values, passions, and feelings. As a result, the ESFP may contemplate future possibilities for a change instead of remaining preoccupied with the present. Both types are united by their laid-back approach to life and their tendency to listen to their own reasoning when making decisions.

However, both individuals may be drained after trying multiple things or might not be able to settle on certain big decisions, intensifying each other’s indecisiveness. As such, N-types of any variety are likely to be a great match with ENFPs. This central communication style, focusing on abstract concepts and symbolism through intuition, allows ENFPs to understand where other N-types are coming from. Both of these types are very flexible and adapt to new environments and circumstances with ease. However, ISTPs are great with rational thinking and solving problems in a practical way, while ENFPs act more as creative innovators and leaders charged with empathy.

On the negative side, the ESTJ takes pride in sharing their way of doing things with others and the ENFP does not appreciate being told what to do. On the flip side, the ENFP enjoys exploring different options whereas the ESTJ values quick, logical decisions. Sometimes our feelings feel like cooking fried food–fucking delicious, smoking hot, and quick to cook. Simmering over a low heat that builds over a long time, adding flavor and depth. Dating an ENFP is like cooking with a deep fryer–hot, quick, and delicious. But dating another type provides a better chance for a slow cooker relationship.

This relationship offers a relative degree of comfort, as neither type finds the other particularly intimidating and both are somewhat laid-back in nature. ENFPs can sometimes appear fragile to others, simply because they are capable of being sensitive. They might possess an ocean of feelings, but that does not mean they cannot contain them.

They love to learn, which often surprises people who do not truly know them. They often shock people with how much knowledge they possess, making them easily underestimated individuals. However, when they are very interested in someone, they are likely to tone it down slightly. They might tend to more reserved, fearing they will come across too strong. They will subtly flirt with the person, through actions like text or by just making an effort to be around them.

Even though INFJs and INFPs don’t share any cognitive functions, they do have three shared preferences. This often leads to them having common values and an overall agreeability. It’s not unusual for this pairing to find deep understanding and comfort in their partner.

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